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The speaker defines communication as simply delivering information, while effective communication is when that information is received, understood, and can be relayed by the audience. He characterizes 'art' in communication as being present, going with the flow, and adjusting as necessary, comparing it to painting where one adapts their strokes as they go.
Ineffective communication leads to wasted time, wasted emotions, and misunderstandings, which can ultimately result in the loss of relationships. The speaker emphasizes the necessity of effective communication to avoid these negative outcomes.
A communicator's job is to ensure the message is received and understood. This means removing anything that hinders the audience from getting the information, such as extra words, stories, or emotions. Talking longer than necessary can make one an 'emotional burden' or suffer from 'diarrhea of the mouth', which impedes effective delivery.
Communication should be direct, like the shortest distance between two points. Indirect methods, such as giving the cold shoulder when angry, are ineffective. Albert Einstein's quote, 'If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough,' underscores the importance of simplicity.
Defining terms is crucial to avoid misunderstandings, as different people can have different definitions for the same word. Asking, 'What does that mean to you?' can clarify confusion. Before speaking, one must know their end goal and the specific message they want their audience to receive.
Humility is paramount, involving two key aspects: recognizing that you can always be wrong, which fosters openness to opposing viewpoints, and understanding that communication is about the audience, not yourself. This perspective encourages presenting information in a way that best suits the audience's reception.
Effective communication involves not only 'what' you say (knowing your subject) and 'how' you say it (tone of voice), but also whether the message comes from a trustworthy source. Trust is vital; if an audience doesn't trust the speaker, the words will be ignored. Your actions either promote or nullify your words, emphasizing the link between reputation and credibility.
Communication is a two-way street; when not speaking, active listening is essential. Giving focus, attention, and respect to the speaker is as important as effective delivery. Ultimately, effective communication saves time, emotions, and relationships.