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René, a 58-year-old, arrived in Spain at 55. He reflects on whether it's possible to start from scratch in a new country after 50. Despite his age, he considers himself physically fit and capable of demanding physical work, often outperforming younger colleagues.
René's initial experience involved a friend helping him find work in construction, but this led to exploitation. He worked long hours, often 10-12 hours a day, without proper payment. After six months, his employer admitted he couldn't pay the 4,000 euros owed, a loss René eventually accepted.
René had planned to seek asylum but neglected the process due to work. A friend eventually helped him secure an asylum appointment. Initially given a long waiting period, his appointment was unexpectedly moved up, allowing him to get a temporary work permit. However, a change in immigration law meant his work experience under asylum wouldn't count towards a long-term residency.
René, a professional welder, explains the difficulty of finding work without proper documentation in Spain. Construction sites require proof of high-status employment, and workshops face penalties if they hire undocumented workers. He emphasizes that age is not usually the primary barrier, but rather the lack of papers and, at times, a driving license.
René recounts an uncomfortable living situation with his initial hosts. Despite their initial kindness and support, including financial help and providing accommodation for his visiting wife, their relationship soured. René couldn't understand the sudden change in attitude, as he felt he was a respectful and tidy tenant. His hosts eventually accused him of being 'ungrateful'.
René is currently unemployed while waiting for his new legal residency, having navigated confusing permits. He stresses that having a trade is crucial for older emigrants, as it provides a valuable skill set. He acknowledges that while he has faced setbacks, his outlook remains optimistic.
René discusses his long-term financial goals, including supporting his youngest son's education and securing his pension in Colombia, an agreement that allows him to transfer his social security contributions from Spain. He aims to work for another 7-8 years, aspiring to achieve financial stability and potentially own a home with his wife.
René shares the story of his 36-year relationship with his wife. He met her at 23 in Cali, and they married at 25. He credits their strong relationship to mutual respect and his wife's supportive nature, acknowledging his past faults. They enjoy a peaceful life in Spain, prioritizing their time together.
René highlights the importance of their Christian faith in their relationship, emphasizing that a strong connection with God fosters empathy and understanding. He values the companionship of his wife, especially now that their children are grown, enjoying a quieter life where they can focus on each other and their shared goals.
René's advice for a lasting relationship is rooted in mutual respect and appreciation for each other's efforts. He acknowledges the natural decline in sexual activity over time but asserts that it is the profound companionship and physical attraction that sustains their bond. He underlines the importance of maintaining an effort to look good for your partner and not 'letting go'.
René expresses deep admiration for his wife's family values, her modest demeanor, and her unwavering support. He considers her his soulmate, reflecting on how they often share the same thoughts and intentions, a connection that has deepened their bond over the years.