Summary
Highlights
Narcissists rarely feel genuine remorse for their actions. While they might briefly experience guilt, a defense mechanism quickly activates, causing them to project blame onto their victims. They never take responsibility, always finding ways to make others accountable for their own hurtful behaviors.
Narcissists maintain a protective shield, an impermeable layer that prevents them from accepting any blame. Admitting fault would compromise their self-image as perfect beings. This behavior fosters resentment and frustration in their victims, who often internalize the blame, leading to learned helplessness.
A narcissist might miss you, but their reasons are complex and usually self-centered. They miss the 'supply' you provided and the invested effort in manipulating you. They are less likely to miss you for genuine emotional connection or the good times shared, and would not admit to missing you due to their fragile ego.
If a narcissist says they miss you, it's crucial to question their motives. They've invested significant time and energy in conditioning and manipulating you. It's easier for them to return to a pre-conditioned partner than to start the manipulation cycle with someone new. Be wary of 'hoovering' attempts, where they might pretend to have changed to regain control.
Narcissists will always prioritize protecting their ego, regardless of the emotional harm they inflict. If they return claiming remorse or expressing longing, understand that their underlying agenda is to maintain control and exploit you. Always protect yourself and be cautious of their manipulative tactics.