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Don't value advice from people whose lives you don't envy. If someone's not where you want to be, their opinions shouldn't dictate your path. Criticism often stems from others protecting their egos, feeling threatened by your different choices.
Being unbalanced and extreme is necessary for achieving above-average goals. The world tries to dilute you, so you have to be willing to be extreme, putting in unrelenting and obsessive amounts of work.
Beliefs shape reality. Question the beliefs you've inherited; they might not be your own. High achievers have an unreasonableness about what's possible, and systematically dismantle obstacles until their goals are met. Be determined to overcome challenges.
Growth comes from pushing past your potential which is often uncomfortable. To get the adaptation from the extra stress, you have to have the extra stress. Being willing to endure pain and uncertainty can set you apart.
There are a lot of really smart people but not a lot of very courageous people. A person with courage will always beat someone with advantages but no courage. Fear lives in the vague, but is manageable when confronted concretely.
Consistency is what wins in the end. Most people only start to root for you when you've already proved yourself but you have to root for yourself through the difficult middles. If everyone is agreeing with you, then that is not where you want to be.
Self-love comes from bridging the gap between who you are and who you could be. Model the behavior you want to see in others, and strive for 'one of zero' – achieving things you didn't know were possible.
There is no perfect way to live your 20s- there are tradeoffs to the different paths you can take. Be willing to bet on yourself because opportunity is only seen looking backwards. Know that success is in the eye of the beholder.