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The host welcomes viewers, including new and returning subscribers. She encourages viewers to like the video to support the channel's algorithm and reach its daily goal of 2.1K+ likes. She also provides information on purchasing her book and setting up coaching sessions via email, as well as making contributions to the channel.
The host introduces the video's main question: 'Does the narcissist consider their treatment of you taking you for granted?' She acknowledges it's a profound question and prepares to delve into a nuanced answer.
The host explains that a narcissist's initial gifts and 'love bombing' during the early stages of a relationship are often strategic. These acts are a framework to emotionally manipulate and exploit their victim, setting the stage for future gaslighting, projection, and blame-shifting. They understand the devaluation stage is coming, making these early gestures a calculated effort to secure emotional supply.
In their active, day-to-day thought process, a narcissist would likely answer 'no' to the question of taking you for granted. They believe their initial efforts during the love bomb and attempts to 'make it work' justify their actions. They rarely take accountability for lying, cheating, or abusive behaviors, instead blaming the victim for the relationship's failure by suggesting the victim asked too many questions or caused issues.
During reflective, quiet moments when not actively involved in creating chaos, a narcissist will admit that they took you for granted. They understand the value you brought, the respect you showed, and that you gave them something they couldn't give themselves. They know their treatment was wrong and that you didn't deserve it. This realization often occurs after the victim has left, as they no longer have the distraction of maintaining controlled chaos.
The 'yes' part of the answer, the acknowledgment of taking you for granted, weighs heaviest on a narcissist. While their pride and ego uphold the 'no,' the shame from their actions eventually sets in during their reflective moments. The host describes this as 'dark entities' tormenting the narcissist with memories of their abuse. This torment drives them to seek new 'supply' to escape these painful thoughts, as finding a replacement of your caliber is difficult.
Despite knowing their actions were wrong, narcissists are unlikely to change. If a victim returns, the abuse cycle will likely accelerate. The host concludes by hoping the explanation was helpful and encourages viewers to prioritize their well-being.