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Chewing with your mouth open is considered impolite and unappealing. Always keep your mouth closed while eating to maintain proper table manners.
When faced with multiple utensils, remember the rule: work from the outside in. Forks are typically on the left and knives on the right. Utensils without a pair, like a soup spoon or oyster fork, usually go on the right.
Avoid reaching across the table for items. Instead, politely ask the person closest to the item to pass it to you. Always pass items to the right.
It is disrespectful to start eating before everyone at the table has been served. Wait until everyone has their food, or until the host indicates that it's okay to begin.
Unless it's a business meal where you've informed others of an important incoming call, keep your phone put away. If you must have it out, face it down and let others know you're expecting a call at a specific time.
Generally, keep your elbows off the table as it can appear aggressive and promotes poor posture. While some cultures may have different customs, in most Western dining settings, it's best to keep your back straight and elbows off the table.
Avoid slurping or gulping your food or drink. This is considered inelegant and noisy. Eat and drink quietly and with decorum.
Upon being seated, immediately place your napkin on your lap. Use it to gently dab your mouth, not aggressively wipe. If you need to excuse yourself, place the napkin on your chair to signal your return. At the end of the meal, place it to the left of your plate.
Never talk with your mouth full. Take smaller bites, chew with your mouth closed, and then resume conversation.
There's no need to push your plate away to signal you're finished. Instead, place your knife and fork diagonally across your plate (with the tips at the 10 o'clock position and handles at 4 o'clock) to subtly inform the server you are done.