Summary
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Emotions last only 90 seconds unless fueled by thoughts. Observe physical sensations and count to 90 to let the feeling pass.
Change how you view a situation without changing the situation itself. Adjust your perspective to see more possibilities and less catastrophic thinking. Reframe disappointments into actionable challenges.
Prepare a personalized collection of strategies for emotional distress. Build your kit when feeling well, addressing specific triggers with sensory, physical, cognitive and social elements.
Interrupt rumination by redirecting attention. Use the 531 technique: name five things you see, move to a new location, engage in 3 minutes of focused activity, and take one productive action.
Realize that people don't notice your flaws as much as you think. Free yourself from judgment and focus on what matters.
Refer to yourself by name to create distance from intense emotions. This activates rational thinking and provides objective guidance.
Combine positive visualization with obstacle anticipation. Identify likely obstacles and create specific if-then plans to overcome them.
Build systems that thrive on stress and uncertainty. Introduce voluntary discomfort and create redundant systems to handle unexpected challenges.
Maintain unwavering faith in overcoming challenges while confronting the brutal facts of your current reality.
Integrate multiple techniques into a cohesive framework. Address physiological regulation, cognitive reframing, behavioral patterns, and social connections.