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The video defines chronic anxiety as a constant state of fear that overtakes a person's life, triggered by the fight-or-flight response. This manifests as bodily stress (cortisol, tightness, tingling), emotional stress, and mental stress (racing thoughts, negative self-talk).
The mind has two main parts: the conscious mind (active thinking, visualizing, remembering) and the subconscious mind (automatic processes like breathing, habits, and stored memories). The subconscious operates on repetition and its primary function is survival, especially avoiding pain, making it remember all past experiences and perceived threats.
Repetitive experiences, especially those involving pain (physical, emotional, or mental), hardwire neural pathways in the brain through neuroplasticity, making certain reactions automatic. This explains how people develop anxiety towards things that caused them pain in the past, such as social interactions (emotional pain from bullying) or even their own thoughts (mental pain from negative self-image or racing thoughts).
The hidden root cause of anxiety is a deep-rooted subconscious belief in distrust. This belief forms from consistent exposure to physical, emotional, or mental pain. The subconscious remembers these painful experiences and, through repetition and neuroplasticity, creates a belief that certain people, situations, or even oneself cannot be trusted, leading to a constant state of anxiety as a warning mechanism.
The first step to overcoming anxiety is to accept the situation. Resistance makes it persist, and denying anxiety can subtly worsen it over time. Recognizing that anxiety is an 'adaptation' – your mind's attempt to protect you – is crucial. Understanding the origins of this anxiety, often through therapy and exploring past experiences (especially childhood traumas or consistent rejection/abandonment), helps reverse the situation.
Breathing techniques are a quick way to reduce anxiety by shifting the body from the sympathetic (stress) to the parasympathetic (relaxation) nervous system. The recommended technique involves breathing in through the nose for about four seconds, holding for two to three seconds, and exhaling for seven seconds. Consistent practice helps make this a habit and manage anxiety symptoms.
It's important to notice patterns in what triggers anxiety. Triggers can be obvious (people, places) or subtle (emotional or psychological pain from past experiences, like perceived rejection or abandonment). Observing your thoughts is also critical, as negative or catastrophic thinking can generate anxious emotions. Practicing mindfulness helps you differentiate yourself from your thoughts and choose not to believe anxious ones.
If overwhelmed by anxious thoughts, write them down. This act can 'externalize' the thoughts, allowing you to let them go temporarily and focus on solutions. Crucially, actively look for evidence of your safety every day. This repetitive practice feeds the subconscious with new evidence, building a new subconscious belief in safety to balance out the old distrust. This process, like going to the gym, requires consistency and time to yield results.
Ultimately, building self-trust is key. While you may not be able to trust everything in the world, trusting yourself means believing in your ability to handle situations. This involves consistently looking for evidence of how you care for yourself and avoiding self-sabotaging habits. Embracing and feeling the emotion of anxiety, rather than resisting it, also reduces its power and allows you to function despite its presence.