How Women TEST You and How to Handle it...

Women, even the sweetest ones, will test men in dating, consciously or subconsciously. These tests are not signs of disinterest or 'game-playing' but are crucial for a woman to determine if a man is the right fit. Passing these tests can significantly increase her attraction and strengthen the relationship, indicating a strong interest if she tests you at all.

A direct verbal challenge is when a woman teases you or makes a negative remark to see your reaction. This is common early in dating. There are three effective ways to respond: agree and exaggerate the statement ridiculously, ignore the comment completely and move the conversation forward, or interpret it as a huge compliment and respond accordingly. These responses are 'disarming' and attractive, showing confidence and wit.

Women might test a man's jealousy, as it's an unattractive trait. This can happen through her talking about awesome ex-boyfriends or casually talking to other men at a social event. The key is not to react negatively and to show internal strength. Treat other men as if they are her 'brother or cousin.' If she talks to other men, you can engage with other women. If she mentions an ex, a good response is, 'He must have been a cool guy if he was with you.'

A woman might ask for small or large favors. For small favors, ask for something in return or insist she says 'please' to show you're not overly eager. For big favors in the early stages of dating (before being official), politely decline. Doing large favors too soon can lead to a loss of respect and attraction, as people are more attracted to those they do things for. Once you are official, then it's appropriate to do big favors.

The flake test occurs when she cancels last minute or doesn't show up. There are three reasons: she's not interested, she's testing you, or a genuine emergency. Regardless of the reason, the response is the same: don't react negatively, don't chase her, and wait for her to re-engage you. You can also subtly imply you have other plans with another 'friend' to boost your perceived value. Passing this test shows you're not easily affected and values your time, increasing attraction if she is interested.