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All forms of communication are just a series of behaviors that you can practice. If you consistently practice confident communication, you'll become a confident communicator. The voice you have now is your habitual voice, not your natural voice. What you hear in your head and what you hear on an audio replay starts to calibrate, and eventually, you can't tell the difference. By reviewing yourself, you gradually bridge this gap and become comfortable with your recorded voice and image.
People approach Vin to solve three main issues: increasing self-awareness, being interrupted, and improving confidence. To become self-aware, record yourself speaking for five minutes, then review it on mute to analyze body language, then with sound up to listen to vocal qualities, and finally, transcribe it to see communication patterns. If you're being interrupted, it's often due to low vocal and physical presence. To counter this, stand up, use larger body language, and speak with more volume.
Introverts and extroverts differ in how they gain energy; introverts lose energy around people, so they must be strategic about when and where they engage. Introverts also need to plan how they rejuvenate their energy. Before an important meeting or presentation, conserve energy, use breathing techniques (like Wim Hof), have energizing snacks, and listen to uplifting music. Accents are not a problem; articulation and pronunciation are key. To improve, read aloud while over-articulating words, and for advanced practice, read with a pen in your mouth.
Balancing what you say with how you say it is essential. Both content and delivery are equally critical for effective communication. Sometimes content is so profound that delivery matters less, as seen in Steve Jobs's speech. Other times, delivery can elevate basic content. When people perceive inauthenticity, it’s often inexperience rather than intentional fakery. People just starting to learn new communication behaviors might seem awkward, but this is part of the learning process. Help them move forward by giving them context and encouragement.
Fast talking stems from nervousness and adrenaline. To slow down, regulate your breath with techniques like Wim Hof, engage in physical activity to release adrenaline, and shift your mindset from self-consciousness to focusing on serving your audience. Pauses are vital for giving your audience time to process information and for you to relax. Using appropriate body language and vocal dynamics, such as matching and mirroring those you speak with, helps build rapport and influence.