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The speaker, a former male escort and porn star, introduces his experience satisfying women's fantasies and promises to reveal these fantasies and how to fulfill them. He emphasizes that these acts must be consensual and introduces the 'four commandments of consent': confidence, paying attention to body language, establishing a safe word (like the traffic light system), and discussing dos and don'ts outside the bedroom to maintain chemistry.
The first major fantasy discussed is sexual domination and surrendering control, which is prevalent among women, as seen in the popularity of works like 'Fifty Shades of Gray'. Women crave excitement and uncertainty, and dominance provides this emotional stimulation, making them feel sexy and bringing out a submissive, feminine state. This dynamic reinforces masculine-feminine polarity, leading to a more harmonious relationship outside the bedroom.
To fulfill this fantasy, men should act confidently and with lust and passion, similar to a one-night stand. Starting with basics like picking her up and throwing her onto the bed, or manhandling her into positions, is recommended. Giving clear, confident commands and making her 'beg' for sex by teasing her penis at her vagina entrance are effective techniques. Maintaining strong eye contact is also crucial for projecting dominance.
The second fantasy involves mixing pain with pleasure, with 65% of women fantasizing about receiving pain during sex. Pain, when measured and consensual, helps women snap out of their heads and focus on the present moment, which can aid in achieving orgasm. Examples include biting the sensitive trap area of shoulders and spanking. It's crucial to apply pain correctly and gradually, starting with light touches and increasing intensity as the body warms up.
Two types of spanking are introduced: playful spanking, which occurs during sex (e.g., in doggy style), and punishment spanking, which is the main event and is often more heavy-handed. Punishment spanking can be used to enforce boundaries and shows leadership, especially for women who 'act out'. Safe words are vital in these intense scenarios where body language might be ambiguous.
The third fantasy is exhibitionism, or having sex in public. The thrill of potentially getting caught and the idea of others watching is highly gratifying for women. The speaker shares personal experiences from his backpacking and professional career illustrating this. He advises performing these acts in reasonably safe yet risky-feeling locations, like secluded beaches or balconies. A specific suggestive position on a balcony involves bending her over, exposing her breasts, holding her hands, and pulling her hair back.