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After two years and hundreds of hours of their own work, the couple shares a reality check on their house renovation. They will reveal the six biggest mistakes made emotionally, financially, and practically, urging viewers considering a renovation to watch until the end. They introduce themselves as Miller and Ahmed, having renovated a 1937 old building mostly by themselves, sharing the highs and lows of the process.
The couple admits to severely underestimating the emotional toll of the renovation. The construction site became a permanent burden, taking away weekends and peace at home. Conversations revolved solely around renovation topics, straining their marriage. Their lesson: take breaks, make conscious time for yourselves, and don't let the renovation dominate all conversations.
Initially, demolition went smoothly, but they started too many projects simultaneously, leading to chaos, lost time, constant re-planning, and blurred priorities. Nothing was truly completed, creating a feeling of stagnation despite daily work. Their lesson: focus on one thing at a time and do it right, saving time, energy, and nerves.
Their construction site organization was pure chaos. They realized too late the importance of structure. Materials were everywhere, tools were constantly lost, and they often didn't know if something had been purchased. Searching for a tool after a long day was frustrating. Their lesson: organize the construction site like a warehouse, with a place, label, and list for everything, ensuring everyone knows where things are.
They believed doing more themselves would save money, but underestimated that self-performance costs time and can become expensive. Some tasks took them weeks, while professionals could have done them in days, and they had to costly correct mistakes. A specific example was installing roof insulation incorrectly, leading to redoing four weeks of work and reinvesting in more expensive materials. Their lesson: if uncertain, seek professional advice, inform yourselves thoroughly, and don't rely on hearsay to avoid costly reworks.
They allowed social media to overly influence their decisions, seeking perfect kitchens, stylish tiles, and unusual details seen on Pinterest, Instagram, and YouTube. They realized social media shows perfect results, not the reality. The speaker admits to creating mood boards based on trends, overlooking practicality and compatibility with an old building. Their lesson: prioritize functionality over design, substance before aesthetics, even if it's less stylish.
They were too influenced by family, friends, neighbors, and YouTube comments. Some tips were helpful, others simply caused uncertainty. They lost sight of their own vision amidst conflicting advice. Their lesson: listen to all advice but decide based on your own conviction, build the house for yourselves, and trust your gut feeling. Renovation is a life stage, not an Instagram project.
The couple reiterates the mental strain, which they underestimated more than the physical demands. Communication and taking time for each other are crucial. They discuss if they would undertake such a core renovation (280 sqm) again, both explicitly stating 'no' for a self-performed major renovation of this scale. They would consider new construction or minor renovations, or a core renovation only with professional company support. They are glad they were naive at the start, as knowing the full extent of work, costs, and mental burden upfront would have prevented them from starting. Despite the difficulties, they don't regret it, having learned a lot and strengthened relationships.
They summarize that they would consider renovating with professional guidance but not on their own. They ask viewers about their biggest renovation mistakes or successes in the comments, inviting them to watch their 'before and after' tour or 'cost check' video for more insights, with links in the description. They encourage likes, subscriptions, and comments.