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Mimi was born with female sex characteristics but meant to be male, leading to deep shame. She recounts being told at 12 that she had 17 beta-hydroxy steroid dehydrogenase deficiency, meaning she had XY chromosomes but was deficient in an enzyme for typical male development. She learned she wouldn't get a period, couldn't have children, and had internal testes removed, requiring lifelong hormone replacement. She was also told to keep this a secret from friends and family, which led to internalized shame.
At 21, Mimi stumbled upon a video by intersex activist Emily Quinn, which made her realize she might be intersex. When she asked her parents, they confirmed her condition, leading to the mind-blowing realization that she was not a 'failure of a female' but intersex. This discovery brought happiness, knowing there were many others like her (about 1.7% of the population, similar to redheads).
Learning she was intersex helped Mimi challenge heteronormative narratives and question her sexuality, eventually coming out as gay. She reflects on the lasting impact of early surgeries, which she now knows were unnecessary and led to sterility, but holds no anger towards her parents, acknowledging their best intentions and wishing for better support for delayed surgeries.
Five years after her discovery, Mimi is pursuing a Masters in Nursing and is passionate about helping vulnerable people, particularly through training government and non-government organizations on intersex issues. She clarifies the distinction between sex and gender, emphasizing that intersex individuals can identify as women. Mimi's goal is to be a visible and proud intersex person, encouraging others to embrace who they are.