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Narcissists use guilt-tripping, crying, and apparent apologies to try and get you back. They may also resort to threats, such as self-harm or releasing private photos. Another tactic is trying to make you jealous with a new partner to evoke envy and make you want to win them back.
Narcissists will relentlessly contact you via text, calls, and emails, even for extended periods without a reply. They may show up at your home or work, escalating to a stalking level. This behavior can continue for a long time if not decisively stopped.
In severe cases, victims may need to involve law enforcement, obtain restraining orders, or send cease and desist letters through a lawyer. A narcissist will escalate their attempts to regain control, believing persistence will eventually wear you down into compliance.
Many people fall back into the toxic cycle due to vulnerability, believing the narcissist will change. This leads to a brief period of love bombing, followed by devaluation and another discard. Even with a restraining order, narcissists will find ways to contact you or track you, as their obsession is centered on power and control over your life and emotions.