Top scary tactics narcissists use to try to get you back

Hoovering Techniques: Emotional Manipulation and Threats00:00:00

Narcissists use guilt-tripping, crying, and apparent apologies to try and get you back. They may also resort to threats, such as self-harm or releasing private photos. Another tactic is trying to make you jealous with a new partner to evoke envy and make you want to win them back.

Aggressive Contact and Stalking Behaviors00:00:38

Narcissists will relentlessly contact you via text, calls, and emails, even for extended periods without a reply. They may show up at your home or work, escalating to a stalking level. This behavior can continue for a long time if not decisively stopped.

Involving Law Enforcement and Escalation00:01:01

In severe cases, victims may need to involve law enforcement, obtain restraining orders, or send cease and desist letters through a lawyer. A narcissist will escalate their attempts to regain control, believing persistence will eventually wear you down into compliance.

The Cycle of Manipulation and Control00:01:44

Many people fall back into the toxic cycle due to vulnerability, believing the narcissist will change. This leads to a brief period of love bombing, followed by devaluation and another discard. Even with a restraining order, narcissists will find ways to contact you or track you, as their obsession is centered on power and control over your life and emotions.