A Rapid Resolution Therapy SESSION: Dr Jon Connelly shifts my feeling of "I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH" (RRT)

The participant expresses a pervasive feeling of "I don't have what it takes, I'm not good enough" that has developed while growing her new business. Dr. Connelly helps her visualize this belief externally, projecting it onto a whiteboard to disassociate from it and evaluate its usefulness. She concludes it's not useful and doesn't hold true value, even questioning its veracity.

Dr. Connelly explains that such beliefs are primarily processed in the unconscious mind, motivating behavior and aiming for survival. He likens the experience to a combat veteran's PTSD trigger, where unconscious information is activated by present events, leading to a response. He highlights that these triggers often operate unconsciously and are based on past experiences.

Dr. Connelly outlines his vision for the participant: a clear mind, adjusted focus, and the ability to see opportunities and solutions clearly. He describes a future where she feels capable, decisive, and able to take action, contrasting it with the abstract nature of her limiting belief, which is not a tangible reality but a concept.

The participant is asked to recall recent fun and impactful experiences. Dr. Connelly then connects this to their shared passion for helping others, reducing suffering, and increasing well-being. He emphasizes that her current positive actions and community involvement are her true reality, with past experiences merely leading her to this point.

Through a guided exercise, the participant leans into the feeling of "not good enough" and identifies memories associated with it. She recalls an event at age seven and another at age five, later specifying the latter as her first day of school, where she felt scared as her mother left her alone. This memory is identified as a point where a fear of the future and separation anxiety originated.

Dr. Connelly guides the participant to look at the photo of her five-year-old self, recalling a recent fun and impactful experience. This helps the younger self realize that a positive future is guaranteed. The vision of the five-year-old animates, breathing and moving, symbolizing that the past emotional 'stuckness' is dissolving, and the energy is now free to fuel opportunities and solutions in the present.

The participant recalls the seven-year-old memory related to her father's depression and feeling unable to help him. Dr. Connelly reframes this, acknowledging her tender emotions and loving heart as future assets for helping others. He predicts she will become an 'astonishing and beautiful woman healer' and that her capacity for empathy, forged through this childhood 'furnace,' will make a significant difference in the world.

Dr. Connelly encourages the participant to release the pressure she feels, emphasizing that strong women can have strong feelings. He affirms her as 'perfect' just the way she is, with nothing to 'fix,' leading to a feeling of immense release and lightness.

The participant recalls feeling insecure at thirteen, comparing herself to a more physically developed friend. Dr. Connelly leads her to look at her younger self, knowing that her body would develop beautifully over time, like savoring a delicious dessert slowly. This reframes the past insecurity with a sense of future satisfaction and acceptance.

The session concludes with a physical exercise where the participant experiences internal movement and swaying, symbolizing a ride or a swing, representing natural growth and healing. She is encouraged to push her palms together while hearing affirmations of her strength, creativity, humor, intelligence, and even her physical attractiveness. The notion of 'good enough' becomes 'silly,' confirming a dramatic positive shift in her self-perception.