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The Hormozi's discuss four levels of spousal involvement: actively sabotaging, being neutral/aloof, actively supporting, and actively helping the partner . They highlight a spouse being 'all-in' on their partner's career.
Poor partner selection can lead to stagnation or decline, especially as one's career progresses. They emphasize the need for spouses to be 'all in' so the significant other can reach their goals.
A healthy relationship involves mutual encouragement and support, where one partner doesn't bring the other down during difficult times. Spouses should reward positive behaviors related to work.
Leila emphasizes that her relationship with her goals is her most important relationship. They discussed the importance of aligning on goals and how its helped their success.
You become like the people you spend the most time with, so it's important to choose someone who you aspire to be like. They recommend taking the best from each other and helping in areas where each are weaker.
It's crucial to trust that your spouse or partner is aligned with your goals, and their advice and support are genuinely aimed at helping you achieve them. They say that they are always trying to go towards the same goal
Having unwavering support is a requirement, not a luxury, for achieving outlandish goals. Leila says that it is difficult when they want help with every single thing besides the things that they don't want to look at; specifically, who are you surrounding yourself with in and outside of work.
The Hormozi's find correlation in people who started well, rose in their career, and had a supporting spouse. They joke around about interviewing the spouses. They also bring up seasons and how that relates to career.
Supportive spouses reinforce hard work and create a virtuous cycle of success. The Hormozi's value their work relationship through having their spouse or relationship giving them attention back.
Marriage is more than a legal contract; it's a commitment to growing together and adapting to each other's needs. They share that they adapted to each other which also made them better.
It's important to be with someone who accepts you for who you are and encourages self-acceptance. Leila says that Alex has reinforced her over time to be herself because it was many years of conditioning to hide who she really wanted to be. They also share that finding positive reinforcement stimuli on your own is important.
Alex shares a time when they broke up, but Leila's character showed her respect and loyalty, so he looked at the stats: healthier, worked out more, and made money so he told, "When I am with you I am better."
They talk about the capacity and willingness to change as a highly valuable character traits in a spouse for long term relationship. Leila is seen as the most coachable or intelligent person who can change behavior quickly with feedback