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The first step to building confidence is to stop comparing yourself to others. There will always be someone better in some aspect, but that doesn't diminish your own worth. People often perceive you as 20% more attractive than you see yourself. Focus on internal kindness and positivity, as true attractiveness comes from within.
Don't take negative comments or actions from others personally. People who are unkind or jealous often act that way due to their own past experiences or upbringing. Their behavior is a reflection of them, not you. The only people whose opinions you should take personally are close family and partners, as they will typically tell you the truth out of care. Most people are too focused on themselves to truly care what you do.
Pursue your passions and interests without caring about others' opinions. Whether it's a dress you want to wear or a hobby you enjoy, doing things you genuinely like will increase your happiness and confidence. Knowing what you want and going for it is an attractive quality that helps achieve dreams.
Accept that not everyone will like you; this is their choice and can even be a sign that they are jealous. Use this as an opportunity to grow. However, avoid pretending to have things you don't or showing off, as this can attract negative energy or 'evil eye.' It's better to be authentic and protect yourself from negativity through spiritual practices like prayer.
Your self-perception directly influences how others see you. We are all energy, and what you believe about yourself becomes your reality. Start appreciating your own qualities and recognize that many people wish they were you. The speaker shares a personal example of changing their perception of their fingers from 'sausage-like' to feminine through a shift in mindset. Meditation, particularly training to shut down the 'logical' left brain, can help in manifesting positive self-belief into the subconscious.