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Kendra Lust, an eight-year registered nurse, recounts her decision to enter the adult film industry. Initially starting with webcam work, she transitioned to adult films due to mounting family financial difficulties and personal crises. Her parents' divorce, her mother's illness, her sister's brutal assault, and her husband's injury left her desperate to maintain financial stability for her immediate and extended family. She saw adult film as a way to earn significantly more money than her nursing career provided amidst these challenges.
Kendra details the nine-year abusive marriage her sister endured. Despite their efforts to offer support, her sister's husband effectively isolated her from the family. The situation culminated in a brutal beating that left her sister hospitalized. Kendra expresses regret for not recognizing the signs sooner but acknowledges the manipulative tactics used by her brother-in-law. Although he went to jail briefly, he walks free as her sister was too afraid of retaliation to press further charges, a common fear in abusive relationships. Kendra is grateful her sister is now in a healthy relationship and doing well.
Kendra reflects on whether she would have pursued adult film had her family circumstances been different. She admits that without the intense financial and personal pressures, she likely would have continued nursing and webcam work. She then shares the profound impact of her father's actions, who had a secret affair, another family, and was financially supporting another child while neglecting his own family, leaving them in financial strain and her mother ill. This period marked a significant shift from a stable childhood to a tumultuous young adulthood.
Before fully committing to adult film, Kendra worked as a nurse in a county jail. This decision was partly influenced by her husband, a former police officer, as she sought to understand his experiences. This environment quickly taught her harsh realities and 'street smarts.' She describes becoming assertive and no-nonsense with inmates regarding medication administration, highlighting the jaded attitudes of some guards and emphasizing her role as one of the few who genuinely cared for the inmates' well-being.
Kendra's high school sweetheart and husband is fully supportive of her career. She explains that the sexual acts in her work are devoid of emotional connection or intimacy for her; she views it as a job, separate from her personal life. She does not experience the release of oxytocin or form any attachment to her co-performers, reserving true intimacy for her husband. This detachment allows her to maintain a healthy and normal marriage.
Kendra emphasizes that she does not let her professional identity define her. She cherishes her roles as a wife, mom, friend, and daughter, which provide her with her true sense of self. She rarely spent extended periods away for filming, typically only a few days at a time. She also speaks out against the double standards within the adult industry: male performers are often praised, while female performers are stigmatized. She advocates for sex positivity and freedom for consenting adults, believing that people should be remembered for how they made others feel, not for societal judgments about their work.
Kendra shares how she gradually explained her profession to her daughter, starting when she was six or seven. She began by clarifying her 'model name' distinct from her real name. As her daughter grew, the conversations deepened. At age 10, her daughter expressed remarkable understanding, stating she might not always agree with her mom's work but respected it because her father did. Kendra was deeply moved by her daughter's maturity and love, recognizing that her daughter, though protective, might face judgment from others. Kendra aims to instill resilience in her daughter, reminding her that words are just words and their opinions don't define her.